When I write anything, I think about how ‘useful’ it will be for the person reading it. I always write for my audience, because my content serves no purpose if it’s not directly useful to you.
In saying that, I also understand people’s natural curiosity towards others — making the About page the most common page people visit.
So, this is one big page where I can indulge in writing all about myself, without feeling the need for it to be useful.
These are the standards I uphold in life. They drive everything I do and how I show up.
My life motto is:
I walk my talk. I practice what I preach. I am consistent with my words and my actions.
It also means choosing to do the right thing.
‘Taking Ownership’ means:
I take full responsibility and accountability for my words, actions, and decisions (big and small). I accept and own the fact that everything “I have or don’t have” in my life is a direct result of my decisions.
I take the assumption that external influences don’t apply to me. This means whenever I’ve been influenced negatively by external forces, I know it’s completely my fault for ‘letting it in’. Assuming all responsibility in my life is how I choose to live.
‘Commit to Mastery’ means:
I choose to commit myself to do the work to hone all the skills I choose to have in life. I want to ‘own my crafts’.
I have no interest to be known for just 1 thing — to me that’s really boring.
I have a deep desire to be so good at so many different things that people cannot define me or ‘put me in a box’.
Everything I do is by choice.
I’m very conscious of my intentions and the choices I make.
1981: Born in Taiwan.
1986: Started learning the piano, but quit after a few months. Don’t remember much at this age — story came from mum.
1989: Moved to Sydney with my family. Didn’t know a word of English.
1991: Mum convinced me to learn the piano again.
1992: Started learning about basketball after discovering Michael Jordan and watching the Chicago Bulls. My cousin Paul was a fan and I was hooked. I thought MJ was the coolest guy on the planet.
1995: Discovered I can write music. I started to really love music. Secretly wanted to be a composer.
Played on the basketball team in high school for 4 years. I was obsessed with ‘Slam Dunk’ — my favourite comic in high school. I owned the entire collection (31 books).
1999: Started studying Computer Science and Japanese at Macquarie University. I played basketball for Macquarie University in my 1st year but only for 1 semester. I injured my lower back after playing at the 1999 Eastern University Games.
Worked a casual hospitality job in the hospital cleaning patient rooms for about a year.
2000: Went on a 1-year exchange program to study Japanese at Sophia University in Tokyo, and lived in one of the university’s women Catholic dormitories with local Japanese.
I played basketball for Sophia University half injured. Worked as a private English tutor to fund my travels around Japan.
Most memorable was climbing Mt. Fuji in the middle of the night for 7 hours to see the sun rise from the top.
2001: Graduated uni with BArts in Japanese (dropped Computer Science). Immediately enrolled myself in Audio Engineering at JMC Academy (private college). I wanted to learn how to record music.
Worked as a casual Sales Assistant at Cartier to pay my tuition for 1 semester.
I stopped playing basketball competitively.
2002: Worked as an English Teacher in Fukushima, Japan for a year to save money in order to pay the rest of my tuition for Audio Engineering.
2003: Completed my 2 year Advanced Diploma in Audio Engineering.
2004 to 2005: Worked as a casual Sales Assistant at MaxMara in David Jones, and worked a temp job at Westpac. I continued to save money to fund my music dream.
Set up a home studio. Started writing songs and recording my own demos.
2005: Left my entire life in Sydney. Moved to Taipei and got a job as a Production Assistant in a small music studio.
I worked pretty much 7 months straight, doing 16-17 hour days (10am to 3am) working for minimum wage. I had no holidays, no social life, and worked weekends. Until I realised I didn’t want the music industry lifestyle.
It was not worth sacrificing my health. I came back to Sydney at the end of 2005 completely lost and crushed.
2006: Started working ‘real jobs’ full time (listened to my parents). Worked at the Consulate-General of Japan as General Secretary for 7 months and quit my job from extreme boredom and lack of opportunity to learn new things.
Got a job working at a Funds Management company in the Sydney CBD.
My soul started to die. I started existing instead of living.
2009: Studied Graphic Design at CATC (private college) by correspondence. Even though I’m interested in design, I couldn’t see myself working as a Graphic Designer, so I quit after 1 semester.
2010: Discovered entrepreneurship and started moonlighting around my full time job. I spent every waking hour learning everything I could about “making money online”.
I hustled my ass off working 15 hour days for 3 years. I learned to build websites, learned online marketing and made money as an affiliate as I got traffic to my sites.
2013: Quit my job at the Funds Management company after 6.5 years of misery. I hated the culture and corporate Australia.
Started a service business helping small businesses with their online marketing.
2014: Realised I didn’t like the service business I built and tried to pivot. Worked part-time at Apple for 4 months. Love the products, not the job, so I quit.
2015: Worked as Marketing Manager and Marketing Consultant for a small Management Consultancy for 7 months. Loved the people and culture, not the job.
I couldn’t see myself in the owner’s vision for the company he wanted to grow, so I quit. Didn’t want to waste his time cus I actually really enjoyed working with them. I loved everything except the work. It was a super hard decision to make.
2016: Became deeply depressed and suicidal.
Worked a contract job as a Sales Coordinator in the Laser Beauty industry for 9 months to distract myself in order to get myself out of depression. Enjoyed the culture, not the job. I made sure they had a replacement trained by me before I quit.
2017 to 2019: Had multiple ‘false starts’ with different business ideas. Worked contract jobs to pay the bills.
Tried hard to figure out my career vision. The lack of clarity was extremely frustrating.
2018: Music came back to me — I felt alive again. I bought a new keyboard, determined to get my piano fingers back. It’s been about 15 years since I touched a piano.
I made myself practice the scales every day for a year so I can remember how to play again.
Learned to let go of my ego, practiced with a beginner’s mind and deployed self-discipline. Finally feel comfortable to sit in front of a piano.
2019: Decided to stop pushing myself for a ‘career and business vision’. Worked a low stress, boring temp job as a Quality Officer and practiced patience and trust.
I changed my relationship with time.
2020: Life is finally in alignment. My career and business vision came together without any ‘force’ required from me.
Life started to feel in flow. I started experiencing serendipitous events since February 2020. I am finally attracting the right things and people into my life.
2020 is the beginning of my life’s work. I am super excited.
You might have noticed a trend after reading my timeline…
I am very good at quitting jobs, careers and work that’s not right for me, but I am not good at quitting on myself. 😉
The idea of identifying as a ‘creator’ only just recently surfaced when I asked myself this question:
“What is this all for?”
My desire to write… my desire to create a business… my desire to become a great musician and create music…
I realised they all stem from my love for creating and learning.
That’s my bigger goal… to make lots of stuff and to learn lots of stuff. Most importantly, to do it all my way.
I want to create articles, websites, books, businesses, systems, new ideas, music, experiences and memories.
My goal is to have lots of time for ‘making things and learning things’.
This shapes my life decisions.
It determines what I focus on, where I spend my money, and who I spend time with.
I am someone who never gets bored. There’s always something for me to learn, to improve, to strive for.
Therefore, I connect with people who strive, grow and stretch themselves.
I can’t relate to those who party, watch TV (consume media mindlessly), and want to do as little as possible in life.
For the most part of my life, I’ve had an uncommon approach to life. It was mostly shaped by my own ambitions (except the years between 2006 to 2010 when I lost my way and conformed to the status quo).
I’ve always wanted to live without regret. To not squander and waste my one chance at life.
The ‘fear of regret’ helped me make seemingly impossible life decisions every time I faced a big fork in the road.
The question I asked myself time and time again when making incredibly hard life decisions is this:
“If I don’t do this, am I going to regret it when I’m 90 and about to die?”
If the answer is “Yes”, then I’m all in.
I don’t want to be talking about ‘what I didn’t do’ when I’m old. That’s not a conversation I look forward to having with anyone. It’s just not going to be a fun conversation.
When I’m 90, I want to be telling people everything I did that I initially thought was impossible.
I wanna be saying things like…
“I can’t believe I did that! It was scary, crazy but so amazing!”
I’m talking about the kind of happiness that isn’t determined by ‘goals’ or ‘external factors’.
Things like a trip to the Maldives, losing 50 pounds, making $10 million in business revenue, buying a beachfront condo or getting that Ferrari.
Those are great achievements — no doubt about that.
But happiness that come from extrinsic motivations are always short lived.
The ‘highs’ from a short moment in time quickly fade into the distant memory as you face reality again after the high is gone.
Thing is… we will ALWAYS have to face the reality of our daily lives.
So isn’t it more logical to strive to be happy and fulfilled in your day to day? Instead of always living for the weekend?
To be happy, you have to know what you live for.
Your happiness is your own responsibility.
So it’s important to know where you’re going and what you want to do in life.
Being happy in your day to day comes from loving what you do.
When you love and enjoy what you do every day, you’re automatically happy and content.
Simply because you feel blessed (and a little guilty) that you get to do what you do — you know you’re living the dream.
When you’re in the state of contentment, groundedness and acknowledgement, happiness just radiates from the inside.
There’s no effort required.
True happiness cannot be extinguished by external forces.
I believe that’s what we all deeply desire, and why I stand for it.
Because I believe in taking my dreams seriously.
Actively working on your dreams lead to happiness.
“If you don’t give a fuck about what people think, you can do everything.”
– Gary Vee
My definition of work means ‘doing what I love and enjoy’.
My work time is “me time”.
Not the society’s definition of ‘trading hours for dollars’.
Work for me means writing, learning, improving and creating.
Whether it’s creating websites, blog posts, music, systems or business… it’s all just creating.
It’s work that doesn’t feel like work.
It doesn’t drain me because it’s all enjoyable and challenging at the same time.
That’s why I can work 15 hour days if I need to. The ‘workaholic’ term would apply here.
But I don’t push myself like I used to anymore. I am conscious of self care when I work now.
I work because I want to. Not because I have to.
It’s a huge difference.
I follow my own interests and curiosities. So my work is completely intrinsic.
I’ve found what I love to do, so I want to do it as much as possible.
I think very long-term.
I tend to do things for my future, not my present.
When tattoos became popular, I never got them because my thought was always, “Will I want that when I’m 80?” If not, then why do it?
I am very willing to sacrifice ‘now’ in order to get something 10 times better in the future.
I prefer ‘delayed gratification’ over ‘instant gratification’.
The things I do now are in service of my future self.
In 2016, when everything I knew and worked for was stripped away from me… my world fell apart and I wanted to opt out of life.
In hindsight, I needed to go through depression to really learn the lesson of gratitude.
I believe that life happens for me, not to me.
So I am grateful for what suicidal depression did for me.
Before 2016, I didn’t appreciate what I had. I also didn’t appreciate life for what it is.
It was the universe’s way of telling me to ‘grow the fuck up’.
I heard it loud and clear.
I have over-complicated life, pushed myself to chase the wrong things, and strived for goals that really meant nothing to me.
I had totally disregarded and disrespected the fundamentals of a privileged life living in this developed modern world.
Now, I appreciate that:
I don’t take things for granted anymore.
I focus on keeping my life and my environment simple, staying grounded and reminding myself of the fundamentals.
I think twice about buying or adding things into my life.
I also hate waste. I don’t like the feeling of having more than I need. It feels like clutter.
“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” – Laozi
OMG — it’s a thing! I discovered that I’m a HSP (on 25 April 2020). I feel more understood now. So glad to know there are many others like me.
I’ve always been told that I’m too sensitive, too picky, too difficult… like there’s something wrong with me.
But there’s nothing wrong with me! I’m just different. 😃
So when I found out about HSPs, I feel relieved to be able to put a name to how I’ve been feeling all my life.
I feel even more sure of myself now with this new found discovery.
I was born with this particular biological difference — a VERY sensitive nervous system.
Which means I have intensified reactions to everything in my surroundings.
I have ‘Spidey sense’! 😉
I am hyper aware of subtleties and process information deeply. It also means I’m more prone to stress and overwhelm.
15-20% of the population — 1 in 5 people are HSPs. 50% of HSPs are men.
We just experience the world differently than the rest.
‘Sensitivity’ has a bad rap in our society, which caused me to hide this part of me for 34 years cus I thought it was a weakness.
This video explains what it’s like to be ‘highly sensitive’ and the power of being highly sensitive.
Being a HSP explains why…
I believe in putting good nutrition into my body first thing in the morning.
I don’t eat my breakfast these days though.
First thing I do when I wake up is drink 500ml of lemon water.
Then I wait 30 mins+ and drink 600ml (20 oz) of celery juice.
I wait another 30 mins+ then drink around 900ml of heavy metals detox smoothie.
This is a morning nutrition routine I’ve adopted since July 2019.
Keeps me full and satisfied until lunch time.
I do not inhale my food. I’m mindful and methodical when I eat.
I don’t like to touch food with my hands during meals if I don’t have to.
Chopsticks are my eating tool of choice.
I pay attention to what I eat and appreciate my food — I like to enjoy all the flavour and textural combinations in my mouth.
I’m a carnivore, but have been eating less meat and more vegetarian meals.
Oh… I get annoyed when people rush me to finish my meals.
I never grew up imagining myself at my wedding, marrying some guy and having kids of my own.
That thought has never entered my mind.
I’ve never been one of those little girls growing up, and I never understood what the fuss was about. I was too busy becoming the best basketball player I could be, and immersing myself in music.
I never felt the need or want to make babies.
There are already too many humans on this planet.
The fact how the human race has destroyed mother nature and depleted our natural resources…
Makes me not want to be responsible for adding another human that further depletes the planet and add to the many problems we already face as a race.
My babies are my writing, my website, my systems, my business and my music. Those are my creations for the world.
Also, my sister is very good at making gorgeous babies — which further eliminates the need for my own.
I already love my 2 munchkins as my own. That’s enough for me. 🥰
The fact that I am not interested in having my own kids doesn’t mean I’m not interested in a romantic relationship.
For me it’s more of a ‘nice to have’, not a ‘must’.
It’s an area of life I know I need to dedicate extra bandwidth for which is not a top priority for me right now.
I also believe love happens in its own timing — serendipitous meeting of two souls. I have never actively searched just to be with a man.
I will only choose to be in a relationship if the right person happens to cross paths with me. I’m happy being alone because of my HSP tendencies.
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